Thank you for visiting my website.
I'm Gary Redmond, a counsellor and coach with more than twenty years' experience helping people overcome anger, anxiety, relationship difficulties, stress and recurring emotional suffering.
Over the years I've worked with people from many different backgrounds and with many different problems. Some came because they struggled with anger, others with anxiety, depression, relationship conflict, addiction, grief or overwhelming stress.
Although their stories were different, I kept noticing something they all had in common.
Beneath the different symptoms was the same emotional process repeating itself.
That observation became the foundation of the work I do today.
Looking Beyond the Problem
Most people already know what they should do.
They know they shouldn't lose their temper.
They know they shouldn't worry so much.
They know they shouldn't keep having the same arguments or reacting in the same way.
Yet, despite understanding this, the emotional reaction still takes over.
That isn't because they're weak or lacking insight.
It's because emotional reactions often happen automatically, long before we've had the opportunity to choose a different response.
My work is about helping people recognise those automatic patterns so they can respond with greater awareness, clarity and choice.
The Development of RIPP
After many years of working with clients, I developed RIPP, which stands for Resistance, Injustice, Powerlessness and Pain.
RIPP is not a diagnosis or another form of therapy.
It is a simple way of understanding why emotional suffering can become repetitive and why the same reactions keep appearing throughout our lives, often in completely different situations.
When people begin to recognise these patterns, they often discover that they have far more choice than they previously believed.
I explore these ideas in my book, The End of RIPP, but my counselling work is always centred on you and your individual circumstances.
How I Work
I provide confidential online counselling and coaching for adults throughout the UK and internationally.
My approach is practical, supportive and tailored to the individual.
Rather than simply talking about problems, we work together to understand what is happening in the present moment, how your emotional patterns have developed, and how you can begin responding differently.
My aim isn't to tell you how to live your life.
It's to help you understand yourself more clearly so that you can make choices that reflect the person you want to be, rather than being driven by automatic emotional reactions.
Who I Work With
I work with adults who want to:
• Manage anger more effectively
• Reduce anxiety, stress and emotional overwhelm
• Improve communication and relationships
• Break recurring emotional patterns
• Build greater confidence and emotional resilience
• Develop healthier ways of responding to life's challenges
My Philosophy
I don't believe people are broken.
I believe that most of us have developed ways of reacting that once helped us cope, but now keep us trapped in cycles of unnecessary emotional suffering.
When those patterns become visible, change becomes possible.
Real change doesn't come from becoming someone different.
It comes from becoming more aware of who you already are beneath the automatic reactions.
That is the work I have dedicated my career to, and it is a privilege to help people experience that change for themselves.
Book a free 15-minute consultation
If you're wondering whether counselling could help, the best place to start is with a free 15-minute consultation.
We'll talk about what's been happening, what you'd like to change, and whether I believe I'm the right person to help.
I look forward to meeting you.
